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ALTERNATIVE: Give the Parents a Rose
Marriage is a coming together of two lives, and a celebration of the love of two people. But it is more. The love that you feel for one another is the flowering of a seed your mothers planted in your hearts many years ago. When you were first born, you were a bundle of diapers and tears, and your mothers lost sleep caring for you. Their love for you has brought them great happiness and great challenges, and their love did not diminish as they met these challenges. That is the great lesson you can bring into your marriage. As you embrace one another in your love, so too do you embrace the families which have been brought together on this happy occasion. As a token of your gratitude for your families, I would like to ask you to offer these symbols of eternal love, these roses, to your mothers.
‘Sharing of Wine’ … Ceremony
Drinking wine is a tradition in many Countries and with many religions it has many meanings …
to many people.
Long ago, wine was revered as the blood of the earth.
When a bride and groom pledged themselves to each other,
they drank wine from a single cup,
signifying that they were becoming one blood, one family, one kin.
And hold the persons to their words.
“…… and …… wish to honor this tradition of marriage
as well as bring their own meaning to it.
By sharing a glass of wine ….
Wine has a special significance for ….. and ……
It was over a wine at the many cafes and restaurants over the past years
That they have enjoyed a glass together ….
Getting to know one another ….
Sharing special times with friends as their relationship grew.
….. and ….. would now like to share the wine they found together …
To seal their promises
And to celebrate their first Glass of Wine as Husband & Wife.
The wine represents the Cup of Life …
All the sweetness from the cup of life is sweeter
Because you share it together ….
Any drop of bitterness it may contain is less bitter
Because you drink as one …..
….. or Best Man pours a goblet of wine held by …….,
…. And ….. will now share and enjoy the wine
Just as they will share and enjoy together
The beautiful life ahead. on the journey
They are about to embark upon as Husband and Wife”.
Around the world the wedding rings are the strongest and most visible
Sign of the bond these two people are about to make.
A commitment to life, to each other and to the future.
With a ring warming in your ceremony the rings will not only be a gift from one to another but will be given with the love, support and wisdom of all present. The rings are passed amongst all the guests and they hold the rings thus giving their personal blessing upon the rings before the bride & groom exchange the rings.
At the time the rings are exchanged it might be with words like:
“These rings, now warmed by those you love the most will forever show the world you are one and they will carry with them the eternal love and blessing of your families”.
*** The rings may be passed in either an organza bag or threaded along a length of many meters of ribbon. The ribbon should be long enough to pass along all the guests.
Unity Candle Ceremony
I now ask (the two Mothers), representing each family,
to light the two Heritage Candles
These two individual candles represent the single lives of this couple
Their individual families, their separate heritages,
Two separate personalities, two own sets of friends.
We hope these candles will remain alight for the ceremony
This depends on nature.
I have pre-
….. and ….., please now take each taper & light your Unity Candle
Previously you were two individuals, living separate lives.
Now, as you have moved forward to join your lives as one,
You relinquish your old lives as singles by blowing out the single flames.
You have spoken your vows to each other and exchanged rings,
You will now continue to live as one, thus the one flame of the Unity Candle.
Rituals to Enhance your Wedding Day
…….. and ……. have today chosen to exchange A White and a Red Rose with each other.
Roses’ since time began have always signified Love.
White Rose in Olden Times signified a special secret between lovers
and when they wanted to convey a message they left a White Rose……
in a place that only they as lovers knew about.
The Red Rose was the favorite flower of Venus the Goddess of Love and it was said, that one day Jupiter caught her bathing and she blushed so much that she turned all of the White Roses in the land, Red.
….. and …… have today chosen to exchange a White & a Red Rose with each other, celebrating their Love for one another.
The Red Rose symbolizes the love, understanding, commitment and sharing they have in their relationship. The White Rose symbolizes the honesty, spirituality, sincerity and truth they share as a couple.
I ask that you give each other these Roses – they are the first Gift to each other as husband and wife.
Unique Sand Ceremony -
* (sample or part of the wording)
(….. and …..), today you join your separate lives together. The two separate bottles of sand symbolize your separate lives, separate families and separate sets of friends. They represent all that you are and all that you’ll ever be as an individual. They also represent your lives before today. As these two containers of sand are poured into your chosen decanter, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be …….. inseparable!
Suitable for blended families to join in, maybe also include the Bridal Party or Parents/Grandparents.
This is usually performed after the Vows and Exchange of Rings.